MUTUAL SOLUTIONS FROM THE LAW OFFICE OF PATTI HOLT, PA
Life is never completely predictable, and all of us go through unexpected changes in life – sometimes alone, but often in conjunction with our partners and families. Some transitions are smooth, while others are rough, and often solutions seem out of reach. I am here to help you navigate and communicate through such episodes, whether you are in a crisis situation or hoping to resolve issues before they reach that level. Working in a nonjudgmental, unbiased, and calm manner, I am available to help you create solutions that are mutually beneficial to all parties.
ABOUT PATTI HOLT
A long time ago, I introduced my best friend to a wonderful man. They wed four years later. Unfortunately, after fourteen years of marriage, and three children, the marriage fell apart. The husband filed for divorce, locked my friend out of the marital home, emptied the bank account, accused her of child abuse, completely alienated her from one son, and attempted to ruin her career. The divorce procedure, involving lengthy psychological evaluations of all family members, took over five years to work its way through the court system and cost hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal fees alone. About the time her divorce was ending, I realized my own marriage was over. Having watched my friend go through this terrible ordeal, I asked my husband to agree that we would not follow the same path – and we didn’t. Although the process was painful, we stayed out of court, negotiated a settlement with the help of a mediator, and came up with a marital settlement agreement that met both of our needs, and more importantly, the needs of our children. Although we no longer live in the same area of the country, we are now good friends and talk frequently, especially about our kids.
I share this story in part to give you hope, but more importantly to provide an insight into my philosophy of family practice. I was a litigation attorney for many years, but I am now trying to focus on helping couples and families navigate through the often rough waters of divorce with the assistance of mediation, collaborative practice, and parent coordination. I have experience working with all ages, ethnicities and the LGBTQ community. Please call or send me an email if you are interested in exploring whether a gentle approach to separation and divorce might work for you and your situation.
I obtained a nursing degree from Emory University and practiced as a nurse for several years in the fields of pediatrics, emergency care, cardiology, infertility and hospice care. I then worked my way through law school at UNC Chapel Hill, attending classes by day and working evening and night shifts in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at UNC Hospital. Upon graduating, I began practice with the litigation firm of Yates, McLamb and Weyher in Raleigh and later started my own practice. I enjoyed working as a trial attorney and medical-legal consultant throughout the state of North Carolina for almost twenty years before my family moved to California, where I developed a stronger interest in alternative dispute resolution, concentrating on issues involving children and families. I am happy to have returned home to North Carolina where I now help clients find better solutions that work to the mutual benefit of individuals, couples and family members. I enjoy helping clients navigate through conflicts and crisis involving all stages of life, from infertility to adolescence issues to divorce to hospice care.
Emory University, Bachelor of Science in Nursing
University of North Carolina School of Law, Juris Doctorate
Member of International Law Review
Duke Private Adjudication Center, 2002
Northern California Mediation Center, 2012
Carolina Dispute Settlement Services, 2016
Parent Coordination Certifications
Northern California Mediation Center, by Joan Kelly, 2014
The Cooperative Parenting Institute, 2016
Collaborative Law Practice
North Carolina Bar Association: Civil Collaborative Practice Training 2016
(First training class offered by the North Carolina Bar Association and set to IACP National Standards)